Essays

Send Love.

A tragedy happened yesterday at the university where Dream and I first met and I am deeply saddened by this event. While she has already graduated, I still have a semester or so left. Around the time it happened, I had walked through the area 4 times and had no clue what happened until people at work started mentioning it. There have not been a lot of details shared about this incident and I do not want to get into the details I know, but my thoughts are with the loved ones of the deceased and the witnesses.

I would like to take this time to encourage everyone to send love to someone you know. When someone crosses your mind, check in with them. Dream and I are not just collaborators; we are friends with great insight and intuition. When something is up with me, she senses it and checks in with me. I do the same for her; I can tell when she is not responding like she usually does and I send love her way. I can admit that I am often in my own world. I don’t engage with the people that I love as often as I could. But if I think about someone, I take that as a sign that I need to reach out. Just a couple of weeks ago, my grandma was on my mind for days and when I called to tell her that I love her, I could hear the happiness in her voice.

In my opinion, it seems that people are stingy with the word ‘love.’ Or that they feel they have to be reserved about using it. While I understand the reservation as it applies to romantic situations, I encourage people to tell your friends that you love them. And if you feel compelled to tell someone how you feel romantically, do so. Words hold power and sometimes, people need to hear things to feel uplifted. I understand that not everyone has close relationships with their blood relatives, but if there’s anyone in your life that you feel mutually connected to, take the time to express how much it means that they are in your life.

Lastly, I want people to send love inward. It can be hard to love yourself when you are constantly bombarded with messages from society of why you shouldn’t. While the narrative around this is changing, self-love can sometimes be considered selfish and I think we need to completely do away with that form of thinking. If it is hard to outright say ‘I love myself,’ being kind with yourself goes a long way.

With Love,

Shanté

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